I am fairly new to Insteon devices, but have so far had no problem making them do what I want.  I have a universal Devices ISY.  I am getting pretty good at configuring that box. 
  
Here is situation and problem: 
I have an Insteon 8 key 2334-222 keypad dimmer.  I currently have it programmed to turn 7 different lights on/off by directly controlling Insteon Dimmer outlets 2472D. This works fine. 
  
I have button "H" set to turn ON / OFF the "Couch Light.  (Toggle) 
  
I have an Insteon MiniRemotes 2342-222.   I have one of button pairs set to turn ON / OFF the "Couch Light". 
  
What I want to do is to be sure that the "H" button on the 8 keypad turns on/off in sync with the "Couch Light" even if I turn the "Couch Light" on from the Mini-Remote. 
  
I can do this by creating a scene where the mini is the controller, and the "H" key and the "couch light" are responders.  And this works OK. 
  
But the problem is when I have a scene that is an "All On" triggered from a mini-remote, I want to be sure that back light on each key on the 8 Key Pad stays in sync with the status if it's corresponding light (Responder). 
  
I have looked at the Back Light level programmatic control, but this seems to be just a way to set how bright the button is when the status is on or off.  Not a way to actually turn the light on or off. 
  
Any ideas? 
  
Thanks, 
Michael